About Wilder

Hi, I’m Wilder.

I came to this work from the inside out. Through my own becoming, and through years of sitting with others in some of the most tender passages of human experience. I believe the body holds wisdom the thinking mind can’t always reach, that we heal more fully when we feel genuinely held, and that something shifts when we finally feel not just heard, but truly seen.

Before I held space for others, I learned what it meant to need it myself. For seven years I taught yoga, developing a deep fluency in the body’s language. How breath moves. How the nervous system speaks. How a grounded presence can itself become medicine. I spent years in the nonprofit sector providing crisis support, facilitating recovery support groups, and walking alongside people navigating addiction, grief, and the particular exhaustion of someone who has been reaching for change for a long time. I also taught harm reduction, a framework I carry into everything I do, rooted in meeting people where they are.

My Hakomi training (Level 2) gave structure to what I had been learning intuitively through years of practice. It sharpened my ability to track sensation, emotion, and what arises moment to moment in the body. My own journey with expanded states has been equally formative. I have lived firsthand the difference between an experience held in isolation and one held within a warm, skilled, caring presence. That experience lives in me, and it shapes what I offer.

I want to tell you a little about who I am outside of this work.

I love to dance. I make art. I gather with people in ways that feel nourishing and real, through singing, ritual, shared meals, and time spent close to the natural world. I am a dog parent and someone who finds her way back to herself through movement and the outdoors. I feel most alive in spaces that make room for grief, tenderness, play, and the full and complicated truth of being human. They are woven into how I work.

A Note About Who I Work With

This is a space for people who are ready to meet themselves more fully, whatever that looks like for you.

Whether you’re living with chronic illness or an autoimmune condition, you’re neurodivergent, or you’ve spent so much energy caring for others that you’ve lost touch with yourself, you’re welcome here.

Whatever has shaped your life, you may have learned to cope by anticipating others’ needs, staying in motion, dimming parts of yourself, moving past your limits, being the one who holds it all together, disconnecting from your body, or carrying more than anyone realizes. Those ways of being often emerge for good reasons because they’re intelligent adaptations that helped you get through. Together, we create space to meet those patterns with compassion, listen more deeply to your body and nervous system, and gently discover what else might be possible.

I welcome adults from all backgrounds, identities, relationship structures, sexual orientations, and gender expressions. Whatever has shaped your story, you don’t need to edit yourself to belong here.

“Healing is an act of communion.”

— bell hooks

Training and Background

My background includes Level 2 Hakomi training through the Seattle Hakomi Education Network, seven years of teaching yoga, and specialized apprenticeship training in psychedelic integration and expanded state support. I also bring years of direct experience in crisis support, recovery coaching, support group facilitation, and harm reduction education in the nonprofit sector. Work that laid much of the foundation for how I show up today.

A Note on Liberation and Belonging

Our bodies carry not just personal memory but collective memory, what has been endured, survived, and passed down through generations and through oppressive systems that were never designed with our wholeness in mind. I believe that when we turn toward what we carry, our grief, our shadows, the places where something has been waiting to move, we are doing something that reaches further than we know.

Healing was never meant to end with us. What softens in us softens around us. What becomes free in us moves, quietly, toward freedom in the people and places we touch. When we tend to ourselves, we become more capable of showing up for each other. And genuine community, the kind where we are truly known, may be where the deepest healing actually lives. What this work is ultimately pointing toward is bringing what we have learned about ourselves back into relationship, back into community, back into a world that needs us whole.

Tending to ourselves is an act of collective liberation.

I am committed to the ongoing, imperfect work of examining my own conditioning and building a practice rooted in equity, accountability, and genuine welcome. This is living, evolving work. I do not claim to have arrived. I only keep showing up to it.

You are welcome in the full complexity of who you are and where you come from. Together we can tend to what the world has asked your body to carry and find the resilient, luminous parts that have emerged from all of it.

“The moment we choose to love we begin to move against domination, against oppression. The moment we choose to love we begin to move towards freedom, to act in ways that liberate ourselves and others.”

— bell hooks